“The Authentic Self is soul made visible.”
Anxiety & Relationship Therapy | NY & FL
Compassionate, relational therapy for high-achieving women navigating anxiety, people-pleasing, complicated family dynamics, and dating + relationship struggles in New York and Florida.
About you
On the outside, it looks like you have it all together—you’re successful in your career, keep up with friends, and maintain family or dating relationships. But on the inside, it feels different. Despite “checking the boxes,” you often feel anxious, disconnected, or unfulfilled. You go through your days on autopilot, only to lie awake at night wondering:
[how did i get here?]
When it comes to relationships, things can feel even more complicated. You want closeness, but part of you also fears it. You’ve found yourself second-guessing, overanalyzing, or pulling away when things get too close. Maybe you feel “behind” or you notice the same relationship patterns repeating no matter how much you try to change. This is what it’s like to struggle with anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or disorganized attachment in dating and other relationships and it can feel exhausting.
Throughout your life, you’ve learned to put others first…
[through people-pleasing, perfectionism, or following the path that was expected of you]
In the process, you’ve cut off parts of yourself, pushed aside your own needs and dreams, and ended up feeling disconnected from what you truly want.
Now, you’re ready for something different. You want relationships that feel safe, steady, and fulfilling and a life that feels authentic and aligned with who you really are.
Whether you’re looking for therapy to heal insecure attachment, dating and relationship anxiety, unlearn people-pleasing, or want to understand your identity more fully, you know you’re capable of change—and you’re looking for support to help you get there.
Welcome.
Despite being the “strong one,” the “reliable one,” the “easygoing one,” or the one who always holds it all together, my clients often come to therapy feeling anxious, burnt out, self-doubting, and disconnected—from others, from themselves, and from the kind of life they want to be living.
For many, this shows up through attachment wounds and relationship struggles: second-guessing yourself in dating, feeling “too much” or “not enough,” overanalyzing texts and conversations, or shutting down when things get too close. For others, it looks like poor boundaries, people-pleasing tendencies, or the weight of cultural, family, and societal expectations that make it hard to know what you truly want.
On top of that, you know the pressure to “just push through” all too well—even as things keep piling up. It can feel easier to scroll through therapy profiles convincing yourself your problems aren’t “big enough” for therapy, or that you’ll reach out later.
Sound familiar? This doesn’t have to be your whole story. Therapy can help you heal from anxious attachment, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and dating anxiety—and begin creating relationships and a life that feel more authentic, grounded, and fulfilling.
hi!
I’m Dr. Janine O’Brien.
I am so happy you’re here! A little about me…I’m a licensed clinical psychologist living in New York and have almost 15 years of experience as a therapist. I’ve worked in a variety of different clinical settings with various populations before opening my private practice in 2019.
Outside of my therapist life, I love the outdoors (when it’s warm and sunny), fitness, podcasts, reading, music, dancing, cooking daydreaming, and dark chocolate.
