Healing Relational Trauma & Attachment Wounds

Relationships are meant to feel safe, supportive, and nourishing. But if you grew up in an environment where love felt conditional, inconsistent, or overwhelming, you may carry wounds that make adult relationships confusing or painful. These early experiences (which may be called relational trauma and attachment wounds) can leave you struggling with trust, closeness, and self-worth, even years later.

Signs of Relational Trauma & Attachment Wounds

If you’ve experienced relational trauma, you might notice:

• Feeling anxious, avoidant, or “on edge” in relationships

• A fear of abandonment or being “too much”

• Difficulty trusting others, even people who care about you

• Repeating unhealthy relationship patterns

• Feeling disconnected from yourself or unsure of your needs

• Struggling to express emotions or relying on people-pleasing to stay safe

How Therapy Can Help

Healing attachment wounds takes more than just “thinking differently.” It often requires being seen and understood in a safe, consistent relationship.

Therapy provides a space to:

• Explore old patterns with curiosity instead of judgment

• Reconnect to your emotions and body through somatic awareness

• Understand your inner parts (like the critic, the protector, or the younger you) and how they’ve tried to keep you safe

• Experiment with new ways of relating (to yourself, others, and the world) at a pace that feels safe

• Build self-compassion and a stronger sense of self

The goal isn’t to erase your past or to place blame. It’s to loosen its grip so you can build relationships that feel more secure, connected, and fulfilling.